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We have all those days when we feel a little insecure about ourselves. It\u2019s so easy to let our insecurities get the best of us and make us feel uncomfortable in our own skin.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And it\u2019s a spiral that can be super hard to break out of.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Feeling insecure about yourself mentally, emotionally, or physically can really impact the way you see yourself in the mirror. And then on top of that, you have society\u2019s and media\u2019s definition of beauty, which only adds insult to injury.<\/span><\/p>\n

And it can be really difficult to move past it. (For more on this battle, <\/span>listen here<\/span>.)<\/span><\/p>\n

But there is something you can do to help you through the hard times and prevent them from occurring in the future.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

A few <\/span>changes in your lifestyle and mindset<\/span> can help make you feel \u00a0comfortable and confident in your own skin. And overall, comfortable just being you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s discuss:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How To Feel Comfortable In Your Own Skin<\/span><\/h2>\n

Practice self-love.<\/span><\/h3>\n

The definition of self-love is \u201c<\/span>an appreciation of one\u2019s own worth or virtue<\/span>\u201d \u2013 powerful right? Self-love is a concept that is sometimes hard to grasp. More on self-love, <\/span>here<\/span>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

BUT, what it really boils down to is that you need to learn to love yourself. And one of the best ways to practice self-love is to give your MIND and your BODY gratitude for all the amazing things they do for you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How to practice self-love:<\/span><\/h4>\n

+ Make time for self-care on a regular basis.<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Practice <\/span>saying your daily affirmations<\/span> in the mirror.<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Forgive yourself<\/span> for past mistakes, and vow to try to prevent them in the future.<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Take care of your body, both with exercise and rest (then do the same with your mind).<\/span><\/p>\n

Accept your weaknesses.<\/span><\/h3>\n

You\u2019re not going to be great at everything \u2013 and that\u2019s okay. Whether it\u2019s cooking, communication, time-management, exercising \u2013 whatever. You can use this to challenge yourself to work on being greater at it. Its okay to feel or look silly at times, everybody starts somewhere. Things take time, practice, and work.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The first step to becoming the person you want to be and becoming comfortable in your own skin is accepting these weaknesses. Then, you can begin to work through them.<\/span><\/p>\n

How to accept your weaknesses:\u00a0<\/span><\/h4>\n

+ Get to know yourself better<\/span>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Understand that you might not always look or feel perfect.<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Spend time working on what you can control, and let go of what you can\u2019t.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Refuse to let your inner critic control your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Work on personal issues.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Almost everyone has trauma and personal issues they need to deal with. These issues take up SO MUCH mental capacity, and can have real effects on our relationships and overall quality of life. To listen to an amazing story of overcoming trauma, addiction, and more, <\/span>check out this post<\/span>.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead of continuing to push those issues out, choose to deal with them head on. Don\u2019t let your personal issues control your life any longer. Instead, focus on personal growth.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How to work on your personal issues:<\/span><\/h4>\n

+ Journal your thoughts and feelings on a regular basis.<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Instead of dwelling on the past, choose to forgive others (<\/span>as well as yourself<\/span>) for past mistakes.<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Know you\u2019re not alone and ask for help when needed.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Don\u2019t be afraid to reach out to a counselor or therapist. More on the benefits of therapy, <\/span>here<\/span>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Focus on what you can control.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Not everything about yourself and others you can control or change. External distress lead to internal stress \u2013 it demotivates us to prioritize what we actually need to focus on. It helps us find peace and purpose, no matter what life hits you with. You can\u2019t control how people view you or say about you, but what you can control is how you react and your actions.<\/span><\/p>\n

Avoid focusing on the negative qualities every part of your life has, instead shift your energy to improving to reach your goals. Focusing on what you can control helps you stay grounded, reduces stress, and increases your effectiveness.<\/span><\/p>\n

How to focus on what you can control:<\/span><\/h4>\n

+ You can\u2019t control what happens to you, but you can control how you respond<\/span>
<\/span>+ Control your habits, it creates a sense of stability and direction<\/span>
<\/span>+ Shift your mindset \u2013 you can\u2019t control every thought but you can choose which ones to focus on<\/span>
<\/span>+ Organize your space, limit distractions and choose who to spend time with \u2013 makes a big difference in how you feel and function!<\/span><\/p>\n

\"How<\/p>\n

Surround yourself with positive people.<\/span><\/h3>\n

We don\u2019t need to tell you how detrimental toxic people can be to your life. Surrounding yourself with people who make you feel uncomfortable in your own skin by insulting you and making you feel unworthy is horrible for your <\/span>mental health<\/span>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s time to kick those people out of your life, and instead surround yourself with people who bring you happiness and positivity. And this doesn\u2019t apply to only real life humans, this applies to anyone you follow on social media who makes you feel less than too.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How to surround yourself with positive people:\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/h4>\n

+ First, say buh-bye to the haters, critics, and bullies. This is easier said than done, but so necessary.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Cleanse your social media accounts<\/span> of the haters, critics, and bullies as well.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Join new groups and participate in new activities, rather than spending your time in the same old places.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Put yourself out there, and don\u2019t be afraid to <\/span>step out of your comfort zone<\/span>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Allow yourself to evolve.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Change is scary, but that\u2019s where you grow! You\u2019re always growing and evolving. It is okay to now always be \u201ccomfortable in your skin\u201d all the time. Allow yourself to adapt, learn, and experience new sides of you. Don\u2019t let the past define who you are and start your own new narrative. This will cultivate self-confidence!<\/span><\/p>\n

How to allow yourself to evolve:<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Practice forgiveness for both yourself and others.<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Get to know yourself more, allow yourself to explore and try new things.<\/span><\/p>\n

+ See challenges as opportunities and enjoy the journey, not perfection.<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Don\u2019t worry about what others\u2019 expectations are.<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Don\u2019t be afraid to take risks.<\/span><\/p>\n

Find a support group.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n

Speaking of surrounding yourself with positive people, consider joining a support group. Support groups provide an open space for people just like you to share their own struggles, as well as their stories of triumph and success.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

By joining the right support group, you will gain access to a new world of advice, friendship, empathy, and just overall SUPPORT (of course!). And there are SO MANY support groups out there for people who need a little help feeling comfortable in their own skin.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How to find a support group:<\/span><\/h4>\n

+ Research local support groups in your area and\/or ask a local therapist for a recommendation.<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Consider joining an online support group. You can find several with a simple Google search, some of which have amazing reviews and testimonials.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Ensure that the support group you choose is ACTUALLY a place of positivity.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Try a few support groups before committing to just one.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Practice gratitude.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Studies show<\/span> that practicing gratitude can have a huge positive impact on your overall quality of life. Giving thanks for all the small things in life (and big things!) has been shown (like \u2013 actually, really, scientifically shown!) to reduce stress and improve both mental AND physical health.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And, the best part? <\/span>Practicing gratitude<\/span> is so easy to do. It takes only a few minutes to do each day, and in turn, it will have HUGE impacts on your life. Incorporate gratitude into your day EVERY DAY. It\u2019s easy to do with The Skinny Confidential HOT MINUTE PLANNER. There\u2019s a prompt for writing down your gratefuls every single day. Learn more about the planner that will elevate your mornings.<\/span><\/p>\n

How to practice gratitude:<\/span><\/h4>\n

+ Make a list of things you are grateful for each and every day. It can be as little as three things, or as long as you want. The more the better.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Start a gratitude journal, where you keep your gratitude list, as well as any other stories, experiences, or thoughts you are thankful for.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Make a point to thank others for the things they do that you are grateful for. Both in your family and your community.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Lauryn<\/p>\n

Practice healthy social media habits.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Social media is great\u2026until it\u2019s not. If left unchecked, social media can quickly become a place filled with jealousy, FOMO, bullying, self-comparison, and just straight up negativity. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If <\/span>social media is giving you anxiety<\/span> and\/or making you feel uncomfortable in your own skin, it\u2019s a good idea to make changes to your social media habits to ensure that social media is a positive place for you to exist.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How to practice healthy social media habits:<\/span><\/h4>\n

+ Use social media with intention \u2013 not just to scroll and compare yourself to others.<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Limit the amount of time you spend on social media each day.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Only follow people and pages that give you positive vibes.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Cleanse your social media accounts<\/span> of haters, critics, and bullies. (And don\u2019t feel bad about it!)<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Take a break<\/span> once in a while, and remember to live in the moment.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Make healthy choices.<\/span><\/h3>\n

This one is kind-of broad, but the point is: to feel comfortable in your own skin, you need to make healthy choices that you can feel good about. Not only do you need to make healthy choices for your mind and body when it comes to relationships, diet, <\/span>exercise<\/span>, trauma, drugs, alcohol, and more. You also need to make choices you feel good about \u2013 so that you feel good about yourself.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re constantly making unhealthy choices when it comes to food, partying, alcohol, WHATEVER, you\u2019re just not going to feel good about yourself. And even more, you\u2019re probably beating yourself up about it. Instead of letting your bad choices run your life, choose the healthy option and feel confident about your choice.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Lauryn always says that she thinks self confidence comes from the promises you keep to yourself \u2013 she learned this from Ed Mylett. Treat yourself how you would treat your best friend, keep the promises you make to yourself and strive to attain your goals (& enjoy the journey to get there).<\/p>\n

How to make healthy choices:<\/span><\/h4>\n

+ Reflect on your past mistakes, and learn from them. Then, take steps to prevent them from occurring again.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Remove negative people from your life, especially those that encourage bad choices.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Take care of yourself mentally and physically by maintaining a healthy diet and exercise routine.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t rely on validation from others.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n

Like some other tips on this list, this one is so much easier said than done. When we give others the power to determine our self worth, we give others power over our overall well being. And no one deserves that power but YOU.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead of valuing yourself by what others think of you, choose to value yourself anyway. Know that you are worthy of someone\u2019s time, respect, and love. And realize that those who choose put you down, degrade you, and make you feel unworthy and not worth your time, energy, or effort.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How to stop seeking validation from others:<\/span><\/h4>\n

+ Have confidence in yourself, and know you are worthy.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Avoid comparing yourself and\/or your life to someone else\u2019s.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Don\u2019t measure yourself on the basis of social media likes, comments, etc.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Set Boundaries.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Once you get to know yourself more, you\u2019ll realize what actions or things you like and dislike. Setting emotional, mental and physical boundaries protects our sense of self. Learn to say no when something doesn\u2019t align with your values and needs. Don\u2019t do something for others that makes you feel miserable just to make them happy.<\/span><\/p>\n

It also isn\u2019t selfish to want and need something in a certain way from someone. It\u2019s okay to tell them that this is how you want it done because it aligns with you. If they can\u2019t accommodate or follow a compromise for you, it is not selfish to say no.<\/span><\/p>\n

How to set boundaries:<\/span><\/h4>\n

+ Get to know yourself, explore what works and what doesn\u2019t.<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Communicate your boundaries clearly with others.<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Learn to say no.<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Be prepared for pushback, not everyone will be happy about it but be firm about your boundaries.<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Build confidence with practice, start slowly introducing your boundaries and get yourself familiar with how it can be properly communicated.<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Respect others\u2019 boundaries, lead by example.<\/span><\/p>\n

Maintain a positive mindset.<\/span><\/h3>\n

And lastly, you have to keep things positive. It\u2019s normal to feel down and out sometimes, but a constant cycle of dread and self-consciousness is super unhealthy. Especially for your mental health.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Practice positivity throughout your day. Replace bad habits with new, positive ones and work on surrounding yourself with those positive people we mentioned earlier. Instead of dwelling on negative thoughts, find a new distraction. In time, your overall mindset can become a very positive place to be.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How to maintain a positive mindset:<\/span><\/h4>\n

+ Practice gratitude on a daily basis, and throw in some affirmations as well.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Maintain a healthy lifestyle.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Remove negative people from your life.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

+ Don\u2019t be too hard on yourself.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You owe it yourself to love yourself and feel more comfortable in your own skin.<\/span><\/h5>\n

After all, it\u2019s your life and you only get one. So, you might as well love yourself and give yourself the respect and value you deserve.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

x, The Skinny Confidential<\/em> team.<\/p>\n

+ check out the top lessons Lauryn has learned from doing 400+ podcast episodes.<\/em><\/p>\n

++ stalk these productivity tips to help you reach your goals.<\/em><\/p>\n

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