{"id":438,"date":"2025-01-19T21:38:49","date_gmt":"2025-01-19T13:38:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ottimosito.com\/index.php\/2025\/11\/22\/how-to-put-the-spice-back-in-your-marriage\/"},"modified":"2025-11-22T21:04:57","modified_gmt":"2025-11-22T13:04:57","slug":"how-to-put-the-spice-back-in-your-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ottimosito.com\/?p=438","title":{"rendered":"How To Put The Spice Back In Your Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"
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If your marriage is anything like Lauryn and Michael\u2019s, then you\u2019ve known each other for a long time.<\/p>\n

They\u2019ve known each other since they were 12, and are still in a relationship with chemistry and a friendship that doesn\u2019t show any signs of fizzling out.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s more on the story of their relationship and how they first met.<\/p>\n

So, how do they do it?\u00a0<\/p>\n

Even if you haven\u2019t known your husband since middle school, marriage is a long-term commitment that can make you so familiar with each other that you get a little bored.\u00a0<\/p>\n

We\u2019re not saying your eyes are looking elsewhere, but you might be falling into a routine that leaves little room for romance OR good sex.\u00a0<\/p>\n

When things get dull, you\u2019ve got to find a way to keep it spicy and flirty, ya know? But, we know it\u2019s not easy to get out of a rut once you\u2019re in it.<\/p>\n

Rekindling your romance and falling in love again can help make your marriage healthy and strong, so it\u2019s definitely worth your time.\u00a0<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why today, we\u2019re sharing a round-up of ways to spice things up again\u2014and keep it hot and playful in a way that feels like you<\/em>.<\/p>\n

How To Put The Spice Back In Your Marriage<\/h2>\n

Utilize each other\u2019s love languages.<\/h3>\n

If you haven\u2019t checked out The 5 Love Languages, it\u2019s time to figure that out. These love languages can be a relationship GAME CHANGER. Knowing exactly what your partner needs and being confident you can give it to them? Yes, please.<\/p>\n

The five love languages are:\u00a0<\/p>\n

Words of Affirmation<\/p>\n

Physical Touch<\/p>\n

Receiving Gifts<\/p>\n

Acts of Service<\/p>\n

Quality Time<\/p>\n

Everybody needs a little bit of everything, but some people have a distinct preference for how they best receive love. If you take the time to find out your partner\u2019s love language and shower them with love in that particular way, your partner will feel that love more strongly than if you balanced your love with all five languages.<\/p>\n

Go on regular dates.<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s so important to carve out time to spend together for just the two of you. You need time to talk, decompress, plan, and dream together.\u00a0<\/p>\n

If things are gonna get spicy, you\u2019ve gotta have an emotional connection, plain and simple. And while that emotional connection is OBVIOUSLY there (why else would you be married?), it can get clogged up with everything else going on in your life.<\/p>\n

Dates help you reinforce that emotional connection, which makes it so much easier to flirt, have good sex, and feel strong in your relationship.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Even if you\u2019re staying at home for your date, dress up a little. That can make all the difference between a regular night at home and a capital-D Date.\u00a0<\/p>\n

If you need a date night outfit, you know we\u2019ve got your back. Here are 13 Date Night Outfits That\u2019ll Keep You Looking Hot And Feeling Good.<\/p>\n

Diversify your sex life.<\/h3>\n

Okay, we can\u2019t add spice without better sex, right? Chances are, no matter what kind of couple you are, sex has gotten a little vanilla. There\u2019s nothing wrong with that on the surface, of course, but if you\u2019re really looking to bring back some of that pre-marital excitement, it\u2019s time to get a little adventurous.<\/p>\n

Something simple, like sexy lingerie or a hot playlist can go a long way. But, don\u2019t be afraid to go even harder (no pun intended.) Experiment with some sex toys, try different positions, and even take on a new identity.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n

Bring back flirting<\/h3>\n

Feeling wanted is a super important part of a spicy marriage. There are lots of ways to do that, but we think flirting is the most fun.<\/p>\n

It brings an element of intrigue to regular conversation, and turns a simple compliment into something that can make you blush.<\/p>\n

Plus, regular flirting is a sign of a thriving, healthy relationship. In our book, anyway.<\/p>\n

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Be intentional about casual intimacy.<\/h3>\n

One seemingly small way to bring romance back into your love life when you\u2019re in a long term relationship is to increase your casual intimacy.<\/p>\n

When you put in effort to be holding hands, putting an arm around each other, and giving each other quick hugs, it can remind you of when you were first falling in love and couldn\u2019t keep your hands off each other.\u00a0<\/p>\n

And sure, maybe sometimes it\u2019ll go from initiating casual intimacy to initiating sex, but hey, there\u2019s no harm in that.<\/p>\n

Put the phones away.<\/h3>\n

Lauryn is a BIG fan of putting her phone away and living in the present moment.\u00a0<\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to get sucked in to what\u2019s going on on social media, in the news, or with your friends. But, being present when you\u2019re with your partner is super important to making them feel wanted, seen, and heard.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Plus, it gives you a chance to relax without all the constant notifications.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Set aside a night to put the phones away and spend time with your partner. You\u2019ll be glad you did.<\/p>\n

Recreate your first date.\u00a0<\/h3>\n

It might seem odd to do something you\u2019ve already done before in order to spice up your marriage. But spicing things up is all about creating that feeling of butterflies and chemistry.<\/p>\n

And when were the butterflies and chemistry at one of their highest points? On your first date!<\/p>\n

Reminiscing on how it felt all those years ago can bring back the excitement, while also reminding you how much you\u2019ve grown with your partner.<\/p>\n

Randomly go out of your way to do something special for your partner.<\/h3>\n

Whether that\u2019s putting on your chef\u2019s hat, picking up their favorite drink, or taking a chore off their plate, they\u2019ll appreciate the effort you went through to do something nice for them. It changes up the routine, makes them feel good, and makes you feel good, too.<\/p>\n

HOT TIP: Lauryn makes a sandwich so good it can literally make your man fall in love with you again. Here\u2019s the recipe.<\/p>\n

Create new traditions.<\/h3>\n

We\u2019ve all got to have something to look forward to.\u00a0<\/p>\n

When your relationship starts to become a little monotonous, giving yourselves something special to look forward to can make all the difference.<\/p>\n

Work out together.<\/h3>\n

Exercise gives you happy hormones, and so does your partner. So why not give your happy hormones a little boost and combine the two?<\/p>\n

It feels good to get your body moving, and studies show regular exercise can boost your libido, meaning more great sex is on the horizon.\u00a0<\/p>\n

A Few More Ways to Bring the Heat Back<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Try a marriage podcast together.<\/strong><\/p>\n

There are so many great relationship podcasts right now that can inspire deeper conversations. One we love? The HIM & HER episode with Pookie and Jett. These two are raw, hilarious, and unfiltered\u2014talking love, marriage, and everything in between with total honesty.<\/p>\n

Also check out:<\/p>\n

Where Should We Begin?<\/em> by Esther Perel<\/p>\n

Marriage Therapy Radio<\/em><\/p>\n

The Love Prescription<\/em> podcast<\/p>\n

Queue up an episode during your next walk or drive\u2014it\u2019s basically free therapy with laughs.<\/p>\n

Start a \u201cspicy\u201d jar.<\/strong>
<\/strong> Here\u2019s a fun twist: each of you writes down something flirty, sexy, or romantic on a slip of paper. Fold them up and toss them into a jar. Once a week, pick one at random and do whatever it says. It\u2019s spontaneous, fun, and keeps things fresh.<\/p>\n

Set a bedroom challenge.<\/strong>
<\/strong> This one\u2019s for the couples who want to get playful. Challenge each other to initiate sex in a different way every week for a month. The goal? Surprise, creativity, and a whole lot of fun.<\/p>\n

At the end of the day, marriage doesn\u2019t thrive on autopilot. It thrives on effort, attention, and choosing each other over and over again\u2014even when you\u2019ve seen each other in every possible mood, outfit, and phase of life.<\/p>\n

And honestly? That\u2019s kind of beautiful.<\/p>\n

How do you keep things spicy in your marriage?<\/h4>\n

If you\u2019ve got great tips on keeping your relationship flirty, fresh, and fun, we want to know. Comment your best tricks down below.<\/p>\n

x, The Skinny Confidential team<\/p>\n

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